Phantom Stang
06-20-2007, 08:20 AM
Its important for men to remember that as women get older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are over sensitive, and there is nothing worse than an over sensitive woman.
My names Dave.
Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to get a full time job along with her part-time job. both for extra income and the health benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was begining to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.
Although, she knows how hungary I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so, before she starts dinner.
I dont yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets the dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the Mens Griil at the club, so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home cooked grub, when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. but now its not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.
I do what I can, diplomatically reminding her several times each evening, that they wont clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it seems to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging, is complaining. I think, for example, Peggy will say that its difficukt to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it over two or three days. That way, she wont have to rush so much. I also tell her that missing lunch, completely now and then, woudn't hurt her any ( you know what I mean ! )
I like to think that tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to to think she needs more rest periods.
She had to take a break, when she was only half finished mowing the lawn.
I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big cold glass of freshly sqeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make me one, too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy.
I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible.
Nobody knows better that I do, how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are all put on this earth to help each other.
Signed. Dave.
My names Dave.
Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to get a full time job along with her part-time job. both for extra income and the health benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was begining to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.
Although, she knows how hungary I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so, before she starts dinner.
I dont yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets the dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the Mens Griil at the club, so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home cooked grub, when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. but now its not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.
I do what I can, diplomatically reminding her several times each evening, that they wont clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it seems to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging, is complaining. I think, for example, Peggy will say that its difficukt to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it over two or three days. That way, she wont have to rush so much. I also tell her that missing lunch, completely now and then, woudn't hurt her any ( you know what I mean ! )
I like to think that tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to to think she needs more rest periods.
She had to take a break, when she was only half finished mowing the lawn.
I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big cold glass of freshly sqeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make me one, too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy.
I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible.
Nobody knows better that I do, how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are all put on this earth to help each other.
Signed. Dave.