Do you make them finish the season.....

[softball_mom]

if their unhappy. I believe if you start you finish. But is it the best for everyone???

[neck_06]

finish, i know the situation........finish, then decide on next year.

[Old Dog]

FINISH or quitting becomes a habit!

[clayton7]

Dont quit...Learning to quit now could result in quitting later in life when it really counts.

[clayton7]

You beat me to it Old Dog!

[smustangs]

finish you owe it to the rest of the players on your team to finish

[3ABirdMan]

Build perserverance and character.

You don't want them to quit:
- HS
- College
- marriage
- parenting
- working

None of them are easy, for whatever reason. I have no clue as to the details, but learning to stick by your decisions, even when it sucks, helps you make better decisions next time. And if this is out of her control, well, life is kinda like that sometimes, for ME as well as HER as well as YOU.

(my 2 cents)

[Phil C]

Originally posted by softball_mom
if their unhappy. I believe if you start you finish. But is it the best for everyone???

Is this High School or Little League?

[softball_mom]

High School

[Phil C]

I was only curious but I agree with what has been said about quiting. Not only to themselves but to the teams that have exercised good faith by having you on their schedule.

[LH Panther Mom]

Unless there are extenuating circumstances, it's generally best for anyone to finish what they started.

[olddawggreen]

Yes, make them finish. There will be many times in their life that they would rather not have to continue. Once you start quiting its hard to stop.:)

[Bullaholic]

SBMom.....I'm with everybody else---better to not let a kid quit, if you are able to make them see the "light" in a good way. You might try renting or buying a movie like "The Power of One" to let your daughter see the difference a person can make if they don't give up.

[injuredinmelee]

Originally posted by Old Dog
FINISH or quitting becomes a habit!

Short, sweet, and cuts to the bone. Very good point!!!

[SWMustang]

Originally posted by LH Panther Mom
Unless there are extenuating circumstances, it's generally best for anyone to finish what they started.

I would argue especially when there are extenuating circumstances. That's all life really is - extenuating circumstances. People will broaden their definition of "extenuating" if given the loophole.

[Bullaholic]

Originally posted by SWMustang
I would argue especially when there are extenuating circumstances. That's all life really is - extenuating circumstances. People will broaden their definition of "extenuating" if given the loophole.

SWMustang....I agree with your strict dedication to task policy, but I think LHPMom is referring to circumstances which are beyond the control of a child which are so serious that the child has no chance to perform normally on the team. If a child is out there playing only for their parents' sake, and not of their own volition, and is miserable, it is a bad situation which can have bad consequences for everybody involved. The "root" of the child's problem must be found and corrected before any lasting solution will be found.

[Gobbla2001]

Originally posted by SWMustang
I would argue especially when there are extenuating circumstances. That's all life really is - extenuating circumstances. People will broaden their definition of "extenuating" if given the loophole.

whoa... proffesor SWM is in this house...

keep it simple

[Gobbla2001]

Originally posted by Gobbla2001
whoa... proffesor SWM is in this house...

keep it simple

And don't make her do anything... encourage her to do the right thing and not quit... gotta make decisions on their own sometime...

[SWMustang]

Originally posted by Bullaholic
SWMustang....I agree with your strict dedication to task policy, but I think LHPMom is referring to circumstances which are beyond the control of a child which are so serious that the child has no chance to perform normally on the team. If a child is out there playing only for their parents' sake, and not of their own volition, and is miserable, it is a bad situation which can have bad consequences for everybody involved. The "root" of the child's problem must be found and corrected before any lasting solution will be found.

Let me clarify - If the kid made a decision to participate in something - on their own free will - they should stick it out. I've never pushed my son to participate in anything. All I've ever asked of him is to live up to his committments that he made to other people.

Certainly parents living vicariously through their children is a problem in society, but a bigger problem are young adults who want to bail out every time the going gets tough.

[Bullaholic]

Originally posted by SWMustang
Let me clarify - If the kid made a decision to participate in something - on their own free will - they should stick it out. I've never pushed my son to participate in anything. All I've ever asked of him is to live up to his committments that he made to other people.

Certainly parents living vicariously through their children is a problem in society, but a bigger problem are young adults who want to bail out every time the going gets tough.

You sound like a good parent with a sense of reason, SWMustang. Unfortunately, I've seen some of those parents over the years that expect their kids to live to up to a much harder and perhaps more unrealistic "standard" than the other kids. And I have seen parents go overboard the other way and think their kids were above the rules and should be given anything they want and be handled with "kid" gloves or there was hell to pay. Anybody in any town who has been around kids and athletics for a while has seen both of these situations.

[SWMustang]

Originally posted by Bullaholic
You sound like a good parent with a sense of reason, SWMustang. Unfortunately, I've seen some of those parents over the years that expect their kids to live to up to a much harder and perhaps more unrealistic "standard" than the other kids. And I have seen parents go overboard the other way and think their kids were above the rules and should be given anything they want and be handled with "kid" gloves or there was hell to pay. Anybody in any town who has been around kids and athletics for a while has seen both of these situations.

I've seen those parents too and I find it revolting.

[neck_94]

23-1 why quit?

[DU_stud04]

i quit highschool football, and it has haunted me ever since, if i regret anything in my life, that would be it, quiting is never the answer

[SWMustang]

Originally posted by DU_stud04
i quit highschool football, and it has haunted me ever since, if i regret anything in my life, that would be it, quiting is never the answer

I'll bet most people on this board have quit something that they later regretted.

[DaHop72]

Originally posted by SWMustang
I'll bet most people on this board have quit something that they later regretted. :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

[softball_mom]

Originally posted by neck_94
23-1 why quit?
She has decided to finish the season. I'm proud of the decision she made. It doesnt surprise me....thats the type of kid she is. 23-1 record has nothing to do with it......winning isnt everything!!!!

[BullFrog Dad]

Originally posted by SWMustang
I'll bet most people on this board have quit something that they later regretted. Drinking.

[Bullaholic]

Originally posted by softball_mom
She has decided to finish the season. I'm proud of the decision she made. It doesnt surprise me....thats the type of kid she is. 23-1 record has nothing to do with it......winning isnt everything!!!!

Softall_mom....I'm really glad your daughter decided to finish the season---she'll look back one day and say, "Wow-I almost quit, but I didn't---man am I glad." I wish her and her team the very best , and pat her on the head and tell her I think she is a pretty good kid for hanging in there during the "rough" times. The sun always comes out and "shines" after every storm.

[Johnnypaycheck]

winning isn't everything?

it's a heck of a lot more fun to win than to lose...

sports is so good for kids...teamwork, getting a long with others, learning to respect elders, etc...

its sad that kids quit or want to quit at the first sign of things not going right for them...

and i am glad she is sticking with it...for herself and for her coaches and teammates...

[neck_94]

Originally posted by softball_mom
23-1 record has nothing to do with it......winning isnt everything!!!!

my point was...you just dont hear of too many kids that want to quit a great team.

and the winning thing.... well....

[LH Panther Mom]

Originally posted by SWMustang
I would argue especially when there are extenuating circumstances. That's all life really is - extenuating circumstances. People will broaden their definition of "extenuating" if given the loophole.
Very true. I guess I should've specified that (TO ME) the extenuating circumstances would be of the extreme or unusual nature. (One that popped into my mind was the hazing incident at Donna....)

Softball mom, much kudos to your daughter for staying with it. :)

[softball_mom]

Originally posted by Johnnypaycheck




its sad that kids quit or want to quit at the first sign of things not going right for them...



It had nothing to do with things not going her way!!! She is a TEAM player!!! And a very big part of the team!! Its just sad people care more about the game than others feelings!!!!!

[CenTexSports]

When my youngest was a senior playing football, the team was going through a rebuilding program. Several younger players were ahead of him even though they were not any better. He wanted to quit but I asked him to stay since he started. He stayed and even though he did not get to play much, I think he is glad he stuck it out.

[neck_94]

Originally posted by softball_mom
a very big part of the team!!
understatement...





HUGE part of the team

[Phil C]

It is hard to believe that anyone would want to quit a team at 23 - 1 but I guess it has happened.

[Txbroadcaster]

I know nothing of this situation, but for all those saying not to quit and all that. Well it sounds good, and I agree a kid should not quit something the first sign things are not going there way, BUT...

If what ever activty they are doing is effecting other aspects of there life to the point where they are not doing ANYTHING well, then they need to decide what is best for them OVERALL. To me that is better than learning a lesson on sticking it out IMO. A lesson can be great, but if the lesson hurts that person overall, then IMO it is a hollow lesson.

[pancho villa]

Don't worry about others. Take care of your busness and everything will be fine. And don't listen to other parents. Softball parents are the worst I have ever heard.

[AP Panther Fan]

Originally posted by softball_mom
It had nothing to do with things not going her way!!! She is a TEAM player!!! And a very big part of the team!! Its just sad people care more about the game than others feelings!!!!!

Congratulations to your daughter. Doing what's best (and understanding why) is probably far more difficult for her than opting out. :)