Wedding Party Problems

[coach]

I'm getting married in and June and I am having problems with the wedding party. I have 6 groomsmen and my fiance has 5 bridesmaids. We have already decided that was ok and we could work that out. But, I asked 5 of my closest friends and my little brother. I have another brother who i rarely see and talk to maybe once a month. I saw him this weekend and asked if he would like to be in my wedding. His response was, "Duh, and I dont wanna be no damn usher." Well thats what i was going to ask since the groomsman was already pretty much full. What do i tell him? I feel bad that I didn't ask my own brother.

Then I get a call today from one of my oldest and best friends from high school who I haven't completely lost in touch with but only talk or see 5-6 times a year. He tells me he is getting married two weeks after my wedding and he wants me to be a groomsmen. I ow feel obligated to ask him to be in the wedding, but i really dont have a spot for him.

Downlow family, what should i do?

[BaseballUmp]

Go to Vegas and elope

[big daddy russ]

Originally posted by BaseballUmp
Go to Vegas and elope
This.

[big daddy russ]

BTW, congrats.

[coach]

i would have to elope with a complete stranger bc she would not want to do that

[BaseballUmp]

I would just straight up tell them both that I've already set up everything and that there just isn't anything else I can do. I'm sure the friend would understand since he's pretty much doing the same thing. And then the bro, there's more action being an usher haha. He won't be hookin up with a bridesmaid anyway lol

[BaseballUmp]

Also, I feel like I should be a groomsmen as well...*** man?

Congrats

[Blastoderm55]

Add your bro to the wedding party. He and the other extra groomsmen can walk each other down the aisle upon exit and give all those attending a good laugh.

Don't feel obligated to add your other friend to your wedding party. He only contacted you so that his fiancee's ugly bridesmaid would have an escort. Plus now you're on the hook for an extra tux.

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by BaseballUmp
I would just straight up tell them both that I've already set up everything and that there just isn't anything else I can do. I'm sure the friend would understand since he's pretty much doing the same thing. And then the bro, there's more action being an usher haha. He won't be hookin up with a bridesmaid anyway lol

Sounds solid to me.

If you have a brother who has an attitude, why would you even consider him for a spot on YOUR welding, umm sorry, Wedding?

[jason]

brothers have to trump everybody else...the friends will understand....

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by coach
I'm getting married in and June and I am having problems with the wedding party. I have 6 groomsmen and my fiance has 5 bridesmaids. We have already decided that was ok and we could work that out. But, I asked 5 of my closest friends and my little brother. I have another brother who i rarely see and talk to maybe once a month. I saw him this weekend and asked if he would like to be in my wedding. His response was, "Duh, and I dont wanna be no damn usher." Well thats what i was going to ask since the groomsman was already pretty much full. What do i tell him? I feel bad that I didn't ask my own brother.

Then I get a call today from one of my oldest and best friends from high school who I haven't completely lost in touch with but only talk or see 5-6 times a year. He tells me he is getting married two weeks after my wedding and he wants me to be a groomsmen. I ow feel obligated to ask him to be in the wedding, but i really dont have a spot for him.

Downlow family, what should i do?

Congratulations coach!:clap:

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by jason
brothers have to trump everybody else...the friends will understand....

no... not really.

My bro made a fool of himself at our wedding. If we had to do it again, we would pick the best available friend to stand-up.:nerd:

[coach]

Originally posted by BaseballUmp
Also, I feel like I should be a groomsmen as well...*** man?

Congrats

lol i can put you on the waiting list.

[coach]

Originally posted by jason
brothers have to trump everybody else...the friends will understand....

well he is my step brother and we rarely talk. hes a little different than me and i usually am the one that goes out of my way to contact him and i felt that he was not the 6 "best men" i could chose from...

[big daddy russ]

Originally posted by SintonFan
My bro made a fool of himself at our wedding. If we had to do it again, we would pick the best available friend to stand-up.:nerd:
The groom at my wedding made a fool of himself. He's never been able to turn down a drink...

[BaseballUmp]

Open bar and it'll work haha and yea about the step bro, I probably won't put mine in my wedding either. Never see them or really like them so I don't think they really deserve it haha. Just stick to the best friends and your good.

[Yoe_09]

Originally posted by BaseballUmp
Also, I feel like I should be a groomsmen as well...*** man?

Congrats


http://youneed2stop.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/will-ferrell-wedding-crashers.jpg

http://blog.therisetothetop.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/url1.jpg

[Tx Challenge]

Originally posted by big daddy russ
The groom at my wedding made a fool of himself. He's never been able to turn down a drink...

Russ, I wasnt at your wedding.....Besides, were YOU not the groom at YOUR wedding????LOL

[BaseballUmp]

Haha I think that's what he was implying

[Tx Challenge]

Originally posted by BaseballUmp
Open bar and it'll work haha and yea about the step bro, I probably won't put mine in my wedding either. Never see them or really like them so I don't think they really deserve it haha. Just stick to the best friends and your good.

If YOU are paying for the open bar....Be careful. We set a 2k limit, and got notified early on the limit has been reached and did we want to add more.....

[Tx Challenge]

Originally posted by BaseballUmp
Haha I think that's what he was implying

Hand it to BDR......LOL.....

[BaseballUmp]

Originally posted by Tx Challenge
If YOU are paying for the open bar....Be careful. We set a 2k limit, and got notified early on the limit has been reached and did we want to add more.....

Kegs of keystone run around 90

My friends don't know anything else haha

10 kegs= every person I know drunk

No need for champagne...get a box of vodka bottles a couple of igloo coolers and make punch. Everyone is set haha

[big daddy russ]

Originally posted by BaseballUmp
Kegs of keystone run around 90

My friends don't know anything else haha

10 kegs= every person I know drunk

No need for champagne...get a box of vodka bottles a couple of igloo coolers and make punch. Everyone is set haha
You'll understand when you plan your first wedding.

My awesome idea for a beer fountain? Gone like my balls.

[big daddy russ]

Originally posted by Tx Challenge
If YOU are paying for the open bar....Be careful. We set a 2k limit, and got notified early on the limit has been reached and did we want to add more.....
We had everyone pay their own tab for liquor and beer, but champagne and wine was on us.

But we made friends with the bartenders and got them drunk too. Ended up getting a discount on the tab. Wonder how that happened?

[Tx Challenge]

Right. But Patron Platinun shots add up fast....Really shocking

[Tx Challenge]

Originally posted by big daddy russ
We had everyone pay their own tab for liquor and beer, but champagne and wine was on us.

But we made friends with the bartenders and got them drunk too. Ended up getting a discount on the tab. Wonder how that happened?

I was not so smart......Actually thought I was generous.....Found out fast, I am not a smart person!

[bobcat4life]

Originally posted by big daddy russ
You'll understand when you plan your first wedding.

My awesome idea for a beer fountain? Gone like my balls. BDR is a chick???

[Tx Challenge]

Originally posted by bobcat4life
BDR is a chick???

U didnt know? Jeez very much so

[big daddy russ]

Originally posted by bobcat4life
BDR is a chick???
Yup. Little known fact: every man undergoes a sex change operation during the wedding planning. No matter what he (she) may say.

Tx Challenge? Born a man. Became a chick. Then went back to being a man before undergoing that painful procedure again.

Now he's a full-fledged chick one more time.

[Tx Challenge]

Originally posted by big daddy russ
Yup. Little known fact: every man undergoes a sex change operation during the wedding planning. No matter what he (she) may say.

Tx Challenge? Born a man. Became a chick. Then went back to being a man before undergoing that painful procedure again.

Now he's a full-fledged chick one more time.

HMM Chick? Uh No. Hen pecked? UH yeah.I know if wife isnt happy no one is ..Love the wife,( hey honey) but honestly BDR, who rules? Hey Amanda!!!:wave: :wave: :wave:

[Emerson1]

I want an invitation.

[BaseballUmp]

I'm down for a roadtrip.

[jason]

at our wedding we had 3 kegs (coors light, miller light, shiner) and had a cash bar....everybody had a pretty good time...

the groom at my wedding had a few too many shiners and got with the band and played/sang 'kiss me in the dark' to the bride.....talk about brownie points......

[Ranger Mom]

Originally posted by coach
well he is my step brother and we rarely talk. hes a little different than me and i usually am the one that goes out of my way to contact him and i felt that he was not the 6 "best men" i could chose from...

I don't think a step brother you rarely talk to should trump your friends who have been there for you.

I would tell him the wedding party has already been chosen and you would be honored to have him as an usher, but if he doesn't want to, you will understand.

Don't change your wedding up to placate others hurt feelings....everyone can't be in it, and someone is going to get their feelings hurt no matter what you do.

You make it the best you can for you and your bride....the people who love and care for you will understand, the ones who get booty hurt probably shouldn't be there in the first place.

That's just one mom's opinion!!!:)

[ccmom]

Originally posted by big daddy russ
You'll understand when you plan your first wedding.


This made me laugh. ;)

[Gsquared]

Originally posted by coach
I'm getting married in and June and I am having problems with the wedding party. I have 6 groomsmen and my fiance has 5 bridesmaids. We have already decided that was ok and we could work that out. But, I asked 5 of my closest friends and my little brother. I have another brother who i rarely see and talk to maybe once a month. I saw him this weekend and asked if he would like to be in my wedding. His response was, "Duh, and I dont wanna be no damn usher." Well thats what i was going to ask since the groomsman was already pretty much full. What do i tell him? I feel bad that I didn't ask my own brother.

Then I get a call today from one of my oldest and best friends from high school who I haven't completely lost in touch with but only talk or see 5-6 times a year. He tells me he is getting married two weeks after my wedding and he wants me to be a groomsmen. I ow feel obligated to ask him to be in the wedding, but i really dont have a spot for him.

Downlow family, what should i do?
Cancel the wedding and propose to a girl that only has 5 friends.

[Ranger Mom]

Originally posted by Gsquared
Cancel the wedding and propose to a girl that only has 5 friends.


She DOES have 5 friends....it is coach that has the 6+ wanting to be in the wedding!!

[Gsquared]

Originally posted by Ranger Mom
She DOES have 5 friends....it is coach that has the 6+ wanting to be in the wedding!!
Oh sorry, the effects of Ambien CR and Stella Artois havnt worn off from last night. I blacked out and completley lost like four hours. I have no idea

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by big daddy russ
The groom at my wedding made a fool of himself. He's never been able to turn down a drink...

*chuckles*

Since my bro was one of the groomsman at my wedding, might he have been at your wedding, too?:eek:

We plan on renewing our vows for our 20th(coming up soon). We want to do something like this:
Forever wedding video! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0)
I think this is awesome.

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by Gsquared
Oh sorry, the effects of Ambien CR and Stella Artois havnt worn off from last night. I blacked out and completley lost like four hours. I have no idea

I drank Stella in England. The bartender asked my why I was drinking it. I said cuz it was cheap(beer in England is taxed pretty high). He looked at me funny and said, "Do you know what we call Stella here?"
I shrugged.
He said we call it "wife-beater".
I asked for a stout after that.:D

[ccmom]

Originally posted by SintonFan
*chuckles*

Since my bro was one of the groomsman at my wedding, might he have been at your wedding, too?:eek:

We plan on renewing our vows for our 20th(coming up soon). We want to do something like this:
Forever wedding video! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0)
I think this is awesome.

:clap: :clap:

I could hardly get our wedding party to pay attention long enough to get a standard ceremony right. I can't imagine convincing them all to learn a dance!! What great sports!! :clap:

[big daddy russ]

Originally posted by jason
...got with the band and played/sang 'kiss me in the dark' to the bride.....talk about brownie points......
I may be screwed. If my wife reads this, I may be getting the old, "why don't you do stuff like that."

[big daddy russ]

Originally posted by Gsquared
Oh sorry, the effects of Ambien CR and Stella Artois havnt worn off from last night. I blacked out and completley lost like four hours. I have no idea
At least you have a good excuse. Now where'd you misplace your midget?


Originally posted by SintonFan
*chuckles*

Since my bro was one of the groomsman at my wedding, might he have been at your wedding, too?:eek:

We plan on renewing our vows for our 20th(coming up soon). We want to do something like this:
Forever wedding video! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0)
I think this is awesome.
First time I saw that was on The Office, then I had to google it to check out the original. Love that entrance.

[pirate4state]

Originally posted by coach
I'm getting married in June ...

I am heartbroken :bigcry:


j/k

Congrats and do what Ranger Mom suggested :)

[Gsquared]

Originally posted by pirate4state
I am heartbroken :bigcry:


j/k

Congrats and do what Ranger Mom suggested :)
I second her advice, use protection

[Blackcat1954]

AT our wedding party 13 years ago I only had a best man with no groomens-don't know why really-just didn't

Didn't really have any relatives or friends and wife only had a maid of honor on her side

The wedding was big otherwise-We had two receptions a cake and punch for her side of a small family

For mine we had over 800 with beer and barbecue and a polka band at a 90 year old dance hall in Hungerford which is near Wharton.

planning weddings can be a hastle but ours went on without a hitch-lasted until almost midnight though and we left at 11 and didn;t have a honeymoon right away since we couldnt take off work

So stayed a nice hotel in Sugar Land area- Went on honeymoon when my wife had a spring break in March and went to hill country for a few days.

It will be 13 years on Jan 31-which seems an eternity ago. Weve been through good times and bad times

[Ranger Mom]

When I got married the 2nd time...(the only one that matters)...we just went to the JP one Friday afternoon and then had to rush back to Greenwood because all 5 of our kids had baseball/T-Ball games at the same time.

Friends of ours got together and threw us a reception and got us the honeymoon suite at the Hilton and farmed out the kids to various families.

We had to get up early that morning and head back to Greenwood because all kids had games again that morning. Still haven't taken a real honeymoon....that is what our cruise was supposed to be, but we got to work on a septic system instead...YAY!!

[eagles_victory]

Originally posted by BaseballUmp
He won't be hookin up with a bridesmaid anyway lol I plan on being the one doing that.

[Emerson1]

I wrote and sang a song for the bride at jasons wedding. Expect the same present coach.

[slpybear the bullfan]

Originally posted by big daddy russ
You'll understand when you plan your first wedding.

My awesome idea for a beer fountain? Gone like my balls.

You'll go far in marriage, BDR. :nerd:

[garciap77]

Originally posted by coach
I'm getting married in and June and I am having problems with the wedding party. I have 6 groomsmen and my fiance has 5 bridesmaids. We have already decided that was ok and we could work that out. But, I asked 5 of my closest friends and my little brother. I have another brother who i rarely see and talk to maybe once a month. I saw him this weekend and asked if he would like to be in my wedding. His response was, "Duh, and I dont wanna be no damn usher." Well thats what i was going to ask since the groomsman was already pretty much full. What do i tell him? I feel bad that I didn't ask my own brother.

Then I get a call today from one of my oldest and best friends from high school who I haven't completely lost in touch with but only talk or see 5-6 times a year. He tells me he is getting married two weeks after my wedding and he wants me to be a groomsmen. I ow feel obligated to ask him to be in the wedding, but i really dont have a spot for him.

Downlow family, what should i do?

Relax and let the "wife to be" handle it! You just fork out the money and relax! Congrats!!!!!http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/wedding/t5515.gif (http://yoursmiles.org/t-wedding.php?page=2)

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by ccmom
:clap: :clap:

I could hardly get our wedding party to pay attention long enough to get a standard ceremony right. I can't imagine convincing them all to learn a dance!! What great sports!! :clap:

Every time I see this I am reminded that it can be done. Maybe not as well as that wedding party did, but it could be done.:clap:


Originally posted by big daddy russ
First time I saw that was on The Office, then I had to google it to check out the original. Love that entrance.

That had that on The Office? Crazy.

First time I saw the real video I had Denise watch it. She agreed it would be cool to do something like that for our renewal. Thank goodness we have a bunch of friends who would be game.:)

[bwdlionfan]

Originally posted by ccmom
:clap: :clap:

I could hardly get our wedding party to pay attention long enough to get a standard ceremony right. I can't imagine convincing them all to learn a dance!! What great sports!! :clap:

Check out the dance that me, my groomsmen, and some guy relatives did at our reception (my wife and her wedding party had no idea we planned this):

http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=413665886431 (BTW I'm second from the left)

You'll have to be logged in to Facebook to view it.

Note: We had an indoor wedding in July with an outdoor reception that evening, hence some of the guests changed in to shorts

[ccmom]

Originally posted by bwdlionfan
Check out the dance that me, my groomsmen, and some guy relatives did at our reception (my wife and her wedding party had no idea we planned this):

http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=413665886431 (BTW I'm second from the left)

You'll have to be logged in to Facebook to view it.

Note: We had an indoor wedding in July with an outdoor reception that evening, hence some of the guests changed in to shorts That's great!!! :clap:

[WildTexan972]

solve lots of problems now - just hand her your house, your car and your bank acct and DON'T get married....will save you all that hassle when she beefs up, blames YOU for it from havin YOUR kids, then you beg to get out of it.....this will give her what she will get anyway, and you save the divorce lawyer fees....



or just make up your own mind - you don't OWE anyone a spot in your wedding and 2 years from now none of the guys will think about it even once like all the broads in the wedding do......for years....full of bitterness and vengence.....

[TheDOCTORdre]

I smell a meet and greet a brewing...who's in? I mean the downlow is a big family right? So we should have an automatic bid to the wedding

[big daddy russ]

Originally posted by TheDOCTORdre
I smell a meet and greet a brewing...who's in? I mean the downlow is a big family right? So we should have an automatic bid to the wedding

Originally posted by Yoe_09

http://blog.therisetothetop.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/url1.jpg
Looks like you, me, and Yoe.

[coach]

Originally posted by TheDOCTORdre
I smell a meet and greet a brewing...who's in? I mean the downlow is a big family right? So we should have an automatic bid to the wedding

Yea everyone is invited

[coach]

Originally posted by TheDOCTORdre
I smell a meet and greet a brewing...who's in? I mean the downlow is a big family right? So we should have an automatic bid to the wedding

Yea everyone is invited

[Ranger Mom]

Originally posted by WildTexan972
solve lots of problems now - just hand her your house, your car and your bank acct and DON'T get married....will save you all that hassle when she beefs up, blames YOU for it from havin YOUR kids, then you beg to get out of it.....this will give her what she will get anyway, and you save the divorce lawyer fees....



or just make up your own mind - you don't OWE anyone a spot in your wedding and 2 years from now none of the guys will think about it even once like all the broads in the wedding do......for years....full of bitterness and vengence.....

WOW!! You sound extremely bitter!!

[rojosgirl]

Elope! Problem solved.

[eagles_victory]

Originally posted by Ranger Mom
WOW!! You sound extremely bitter!! Didn't know your first husband was on the downlow.

[RoyceTTU]

Originally posted by garciap77
Relax and let the "wife to be" handle it! You just fork out the money and relax! Congrats!!!!!http://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/wedding/t5515.gif (http://yoursmiles.org/t-wedding.php?page=2)


Thats pretty much what I did, I've never golfed as much as I did during that time. Everytime it came time for wedding planning stuff, I headed to the course. Good Times.

She did exceptional and we had a hell of a time.:D

[Ranger Mom]

Originally posted by eagles_victory
Didn't know your first husband was on the downlow.

Actually...I walked out with nothing but my kids.

He didn't pay a penny for a divorce lawyer, I divorced him.

Plus....he is actually in jail right now, so I don't think he is posting!!

[coach]

Originally posted by Ranger Mom
Actually...I walked out with nothing but my kids.

He didn't pay a penny for a divorce lawyer, I divorced him.

Plus....he is actually in jail right now, so I don't think he is posting!!

he's is probably too busy with Bubba right now anyways

[Ranger Mom]

Originally posted by coach
he's is probably too busy with Bubba right now anyways

I don't know and I don't care!!

I tried to be civil to him when he got out of prison and thought it had changed him, but he has screwed up again, so I am writing him off forever. Just wish he didn't hurt MY kids so much!!

[coach]

Originally posted by Ranger Mom
I don't know and I don't care!!

I tried to be civil to him when he got out of prison and thought it had changed him, but he has screwed up again, so I am writing him off forever. Just wish he didn't hurt MY kids so much!!

my aunt and three cousins are in the same situation right now....i understand that two adults cant get along and i understand how they might treat one another bad and how they might not give two craps about them, but what i dont get is how can someone do that to their own kids???

[bobcat1]

Originally posted by Ranger Mom
I don't know and I don't care!!

I tried to be civil to him when he got out of prison and thought it had changed him, but he has screwed up again, so I am writing him off forever. Just wish he didn't hurt MY kids so much!! I feel for you. I have a relative the same way.

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by coach
Yea everyone is invited

even me?:1omg!:

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by coach
my aunt and three cousins are in the same situation right now....i understand that two adults cant get along and i understand how they might treat one another bad and how they might not give two craps about them, but what i dont get is how can someone do that to their own kids???

It don't take long to want to strangle one's own kids.:nerd:

[coach]

Originally posted by SintonFan
even me?:1omg!:

even you...there is only one person from sinton thats not invited

[BaseballUmp]

Originally posted by coach
even you...there is only one person from sinton thats not invited

:clap:

[SintonFan]

Originally posted by coach
even you...there is only one person from sinton thats not invited

Phil C(or 66)?
I can't go then.:hand: